‘It’s Okay To Be Okay’

A couple of months after her daughter’s stillbirth, former youngster actress Alexa PenaVega is sharing some perception into how she’s doing and the way her household is dealing with their loss.

Alexa and her husband, “Huge Time Rush” singer/actor Carlos PenaVega, misplaced their fourth youngster just a few months in the past, and he or she’s opening up and responding to fan questions concerning the grieving course of and the way her household is doing.

In a lately shared Instagram video, Alexa defined that it is “okay to be okay.”

“I really feel prefer it’s actually arduous for folks to see how we’re reacting to our loss. Really, early on when buddies had been calling to examine in on us, and we may lastly get on the telephone, and we’d be okay, it was nearly prefer it wasn’t okay that we’re doing okay,” she mentioned.

“And if we mentioned, ‘Really, we’re doing nice,’ there was all the time the like, ‘You are simply in shock.’ We now have a lot peace. It damage, it sucked, it was terrible, it was terrible, however we’re okay.”

Alexa’s Instagram caption defined somewhat extra of the story.

“It’s okay to be okay after loss. We grieved. We damage. However we had been restored and stuffed with peace. Indy will all the time be part of our lives. Life after Indy will likely be brighter as a result of she introduced us perspective. She introduced us nearer collectively. She made us stronger. She helped us develop in areas that wanted progress. She was LIGHT in our lives and all the time will likely be,” she wrote.

“Don’t get me unsuitable. What we’d give to have her in our arms now… however we don’t need to stay in her LOSS… we need to stay in her LIGHT. God’s peace surpasses all understanding.”

Greater than 68,000 folks appreciated Alexa’s Instagram video, and practically 1,000 commented on it sharing that they perceive her perspective.

“Superbly mentioned. I feel this attitude must be normalized for conditions like this as a result of it’s unhappy and horrible and heartbreaking however you may select to have that occasion carry you up or you may select to permit it to convey you down,” one particular person shared within the remark part.

One other follower wrote, “Grief is such a curler coaster of feelings, some days are more durable than others!”

And lots of others may additionally relate to how Alexa and her household are transferring ahead after Indy’s loss of life.

“Feeling this with you a lot as a stillbirth mama myself. Grief is such a wild journey, and it goes up and down. I’m so glad that you’re having peace and good moments within the midst of struggling,” one particular person shared.

One other added, “I can relate. Transferring ahead is just not the identical as ‘transferring on’ and selecting to see the sweetness in life is an excellent alternative and a supernatural present that many individuals will not perceive.”

When a social media follower requested Alexa, “Do you are feeling the pull to get pregnant once more?” she shared her response in a video.

“On the best way house from the hospital, I bear in mind balling subsequent to Carlos and I mentioned, ‘Do not ever let me do that once more. I by no means need to get pregnant once more,’ as a result of I used to be hurting so badly, clearly,” she mentioned. “After which the very subsequent day, we had been each within the bathe holding one another, balling our eyes out, and similar to, ‘We will not wait to do that once more and have one other shot at this.’ It is so bizarre how your feelings discover these curler coasters.”

She concluded her video by explaining that Indy will all the time be a part of their household and they might like to have one other youngster regardless of it being one thing scary to consider.

Many viewers shared their appreciation for Alexa being so open together with her grieving course of.

“I like how superbly trustworthy and open you’re about your loss and your complete journey. It is uplifting to witness your religion and what God is doing in your life. A lot like to you each,” one particular person wrote. One other mentioned, “The best way that you’re approaching such a tough scenario is extraordinarily awe-inspiring. Bless you each.”

In mid-Could, Alexa shared an replace on how she’s doing one month after dropping her daughter Indy.

“I simply need to say, first off, that we’re doing properly. We’re really doing rather well contemplating every little thing,” she mentioned. “We now have been so grateful studying your whole messages of help, all of the prayers that you just guys have prayed, we’ve felt them. I do not understand how else we’d have gone by this season with out all of you lifting us up in prayer.”

The “Spy Children” star additional defined that “this season is essentially the most traumatic factor that we have ever needed to undergo as a household” and hopes to by no means need to once more.

“We now have clearly felt plenty of ache, but in addition an insane quantity of peace,” she continued. “Like, God has actually met us on this place between ache and peace, and it actually does not make any sense aside from it’s his supernatural peace that’s simply protecting us and permitting us to nonetheless undergo grief and to nonetheless stroll by this valley, however not alone and never with out function. This season, I’ve discovered a lot about ache with function.”

Alexa shared the information of her daughter’s stillbirth on Instagram on April 15.

“After a good looking and peaceable supply, our daughter ‘Indy’ was born at relaxation,” she wrote. “It has been a painful journey. However within the ache, we’ve discovered function.”

She shared that her religion and prayers from everybody have helped her household heal and discover peace and that Indy modified their lives in many various methods.

“This little lady has already modified our lives in so some ways. She was completely stunning. And appeared similar to daddy. Darkish hair and all,” her put up continued. “Grief has come to us in waves. Moments of feeling completely gutted…then moments of feeling blessed by simply getting a second together with her.”