Three Sides To Every Story And Outsider Opinions When You Share On TikTok!

I am seeing purple and possibly you might be too!

A lately shared video from a single mother named Elizabeth Teckenbrock has actually shaken up TikTok, and never solely on her one video, however the drama that adopted.

As a single mother myself, who’s additionally been by some tough days, I felt compelled to share my ideas on this case and why private points ought to keep off of social media, particularly if kids are concerned.

After I first got here throughout Elizabeth‘s emotional TikTok video sharing how she felt approaching her birthday, I used to be instantly conflicted. I get it, however I additionally do not. That feeling was short-lived although…

My thought course of instantly took me to, I perceive and I really feel for her. However then my logic shortly stepped in and redirected me questioning why anybody would movie themselves being emotional whereas baking cupcakes.

It appeared odd to me that anybody would movie that second, however then I thought-about the truth that possibly it is all about serving to others to not really feel so alone if they’re coping with the identical scenario. And that is the place I left my ideas: Let’s share our tales to assist others! That is an enormous a part of what TikTok is all about and I am right here for it! (This sense was based mostly on the thought that Elizabeth did not have an entire lot of drama following her round that may quickly floor.)

However then, the drama set in.  And this drama revolves round kids who may in the future see the movies and find yourself with their very own views on their mum or dad’s scenario. That is when my anger stepped in and took over!

After seeing Elizabeth’s TikTok video and feeling for her scenario, I then stumbled upon her ex-husband‘s video as a result of that algorithm was algorithming exhausting!

His POV was method completely different than what she was portraying. And that is actually the place my ideas come into play.

Andrew, her ex, claims that he has full custody of their kids as a result of she’s a “con artist” and “liar.”

Any divorced mum or dad who’s had their justifiable share of post-divorce drama might be sitting right here questioning who’s being sincere and who’s stretching the reality for sympathy or to destroy the opposite. (And in addition cringing at what’s to come back.)

For anybody who’s been in an emotionally abusive relationship up to now, they might be feeling a sure method listening to Andrew discuss Elizabeth, as a result of I actually assume our previous conditions dictate how we understand comparable ones.

This case was now escalating and making me see purple. So now we now have two exes battling it out for all to see…together with their kids once they’re older. As a result of if it is on the web, it will probably at all times be discovered!

The back-and-forth of sides in TikTok movies has begun and goes sturdy!

After Andrew’s video, Elizabeth shared one other one to counteract what he shared. Personally, I am fairly certain if this was me, I’d have tapped out at this level. Why proceed to inform your aspect? Why does it matter? It is clearly time to reevaluate what’s vital.

At this level, who is aware of who’s being utterly truthful. On one hand, Andrew had authorized paperwork to share, and however, Elizabeth gave extra perception into their earlier relationship that many viewers may perceive or relate to.

Such a scenario needs to be nobody’s enterprise however Elizabeth and Andrew, however now your complete web is chiming in on who’s proper and who’s fallacious. And why would not they? You concerned all of them by placing your story on the market for all to see!

Sides have clearly been drawn at this level. However my essential query stays: why does anybody need their soiled laundry being mentioned by anybody and everybody on-line? And once more, what about when the children are older and they’re confronted with all of this? As a mum or dad, that angers me to no finish!

I totally perceive eager to share your story to assist different individuals really feel much less alone, and I’d love to stay to the thought that Elizabeth was doing simply that together with her video. However realizing that her ex may probably be part of the chat on-line possibly ought to have stopped her in her tracks. Figuring out that every one this controversy and drama is simply sitting there ready to assault ought to have stopped Elizabeth from sharing something that he may use to tear her aside.

Being a single mum or dad is hard. Being a single mum or dad who’s left to co-parent with a troublesome ex is even harder. And it seems that after seeing each Andrew and Elizabeth’s POVs that’s the case, so why complicate the scenario extra? Her video undoubtedly egged him on in that side, and she or he ought to have identified that was going to occur.

Social media has made it so many individuals simply share each side of their lives brazenly. And whereas in lots of instances that is a tremendous factor as a result of discovering like-minded people who find themselves in the identical boat as you could be a blessing. However the different aspect of this debate is absolutely the individuals who could not profit a lot – the youngsters. That is the precise cause I’ve by no means shared my former relationship drama on-line as a result of I do know it comes with penalties that have an effect on the youngsters.

Think about being an adolescent and being on-line and coming throughout considered one of your mum or dad’s movies bashing the opposite. I’ve seen this occur many instances, and the one individuals who actually get harm are the youngsters. It is horrible when one mum or dad bashes the opposite in entrance of the children however to have it reside perpetually on-line is an entire different realm of madness.

If you happen to assume that this drama is barely on TikTok, you would be very fallacious.

Elizabeth and Andrew’s public drama did not comprise itself to simply TikTok. It drifted over to Reddit the place many Redditors shared their ideas on Elizabeth’s video and Andrew’s response.

“I imply that is clearly a video for clout. Nobody must make their very own birthday cake alone lmao. It is referred to as Walmart simply go purchase one lol. High that with crying and the sufferer music and we have got a grade-A clout chaser,” one Redditor shared.

One other stated, “Generally individuals are so cornered by their very own errors that they search for methods to govern individuals by giving pity on the Web.”

I’d love to listen to your ideas on oversharing on-line when there’s battle lurking within the background. What do you assume – is it extra useful or extra hurtful to all concerned? Electronic mail me at mv@theblast.com.